The hormones that surge through your body when you have sex can sometimes cause strong emotions afterwards. Some people believe in the concept of virginity. However, the traditional definition of virginity, which is the first time a person has penetrative penis-vagina intercourse, leaves out a lot of other types of sex, including oral sex and anal sex.
Let's face it, sex is likely the last thing any new mom is thinking about. While in the throes of the newborn haze—consisting of sleepless nights, lots of cuddles, and a healing postpartum body—there's limited time and energy to think about much else. Yet, as things heal and mama starts to get her groove back, becoming intimate again will happen, sooner or later.
Use old embed code. Hide old embed code. The story of how I lost my virginity at age 7.
Whether you thought losing your virginity was beautiful and sentimental, or awkward and regrettable, it's an experience that few women forget. Over the years, sex gets better and somewhat less awkward and sentimental, but I can honestly say that one of the best things about getting my back blown out as an adult is the fact that I can openly talk to my mom about it. Now that may sound strange to some, but I'll give you some back story.
When you had sex for the first time, was it everything you dreamed it would be? Or was it a clumsy affair that was over in less than a minute? Everybody's first time is different — whether you're a regular guy or an A-list celebrity.
Earlier this week, we shared a beautifully awkward video where kids told their parents about their experiences losing their virginity. They answered questions about sex positions, duration, and whether or not they felt pleasure during their first time. Although most of the kids clearly don't want to hear the answer, they ask their parents about where and when they lost their virginity, and what it felt like.
Yet for most of us, the first time is, well, awkward emotionally, logistically, spiritually, etc. It ended up getting out of hand with over people showing up. Since it was her first time, she bled everywhere.
So it took us quite a while to awkwardly, semi-defeatedly concede to each other that we had run out of excuses to avoid sex. But I had been hoarding dollars from my summer jobs landscaping and lifeguarding. My offer must have indicated to my mother how badly I wished for the thing I was asking.
Despite what you see on TV and in movies, having sex for the first time is rarely romantic, pleasant, or sexy. Sure, it can be—in theory. It was with my boyfriend on our one-year anniversary.
If you say you haven't, you're a prude. If you say you have, you're a slut. It's a trap. So spoke Ally Sheedy's character in "The Breakfast Club" on a topic that inspires continued fascination: virginity, the v-card every woman is supposed to hold onto at the time in her life when she is often obsessed with turning it in.